Mental Health Support for Children After the San Diego Mosque Shooting: Expert Guidance for Families
On May 18, 2026, a tragic shooting at the Islamic Center of San Diego left three individuals dead and left a profound emotional impact on the community, particularly on the 140 children enrolled in the mosque’s preschool to third-grade Islamic school. Although the students were safely inside their classrooms during the incident, mental health experts warn that children are especially vulnerable to the psychological toll of such violence. This article explores the mental health risks, signs of trauma in children and actionable steps for parents and caregivers to support affected youth.
The Psychological Impact of Violence on Children
Research consistently shows that children exposed to or near violent events—whether directly or indirectly—can experience acute stress reactions. These may include nightmares, flashbacks, avoidance behaviors, and heightened anxiety. Dr. Julie Kaplow, executive vice president for Trauma and Grief Programs and Policy at the Meadows Mental Health Policy Institute, emphasizes that proximity to the event is a key predictor of trauma. “Individuals who were in the buildings and directly exposed are most at risk,” she explains. “Symptoms like feeling like the event is happening again, nightmares, and avoidance are common in the months following a shooting.”
Children who did not witness the violence but live in the community may also be affected. A 2023 study by the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia found that children within a five-block radius of a shooting were more likely to exhibit anxiety and suicidal thoughts in the weeks after the incident. Those with prior traumatic experiences are especially vulnerable, as the event may trigger unresolved memories.
Recognizing Signs of Trauma in Children
Children may not always articulate their distress, making it critical for caregivers to recognize behavioral and emotional cues. Dr. Vera Feuer, a child and adolescent psychiatrist at the Child Mind Institute, notes that younger children might show regressive behaviors, such as bedwetting or fear of sleeping alone. “Excessive clinginess, irritability, and difficulty separating from caregivers are also red flags,” she says.
Older children and teens may express anxiety through withdrawal, changes in school performance, or difficulty concentrating. Parents should remain attentive to these signs and seek professional support if concerns persist.
How Families Can Help: Practical Strategies
Experts agree that open communication, emotional safety, and practical tools are essential in helping children process trauma. Here are key steps parents and caregivers can take:
1. Foster a Sense of Safety
“Even if physical safety isn’t fully restored, psychological safety is crucial,” says Dr. Feuer. Reassure children that they are protected and that their feelings are valid. Avoid dismissive phrases like “This will never happen to us,” which can undermine trust. Instead, focus on actionable steps the family can take to stay safe, such as practicing emergency drills or discussing community resources.
2. Communicate Openly and Age-Appropriately
“Children need to feel they can ask questions and express fears,” says Dr. Kaplow. Start conversations with statements like, “I know this is scary. What are your thoughts or worries?” Tailor the information to the child’s age, avoiding graphic details unless necessary. For younger children, keep explanations simple and focused on safety. For older kids, address their concerns with factual, calm responses.
3. Teach Stress-Reduction Techniques
“Trauma can overstimulate the brain, leading to anxiety,” explains Dr. Feuer. Introduce grounding techniques to help children calm themselves. For example:
- 5-4-3-2-1 method: Name five things you see, four things you touch, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste.
- Deep breathing: Practice sluggish, deliberate breaths to activate the body’s relaxation response.
- Mindful activities: Encourage walking, listening to music, or creative expression to distract from distressing thoughts.
Model these practices as a family to reinforce their importance.
4. Seek Professional Support
Community mental health resources are often mobilized after such events. The Lucine Center for Grief and Trauma, for example, offers teletherapy for children and adolescents affected by trauma or loss. “Early intervention can prevent long-term mental health issues,” says Dr. Kaplow. Parents should not hesitate to connect with counselors, school psychologists, or local trauma support groups.
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