Vogue Williams and Spencer Matthews: Navigating Marriage and Independent Lives
Irish podcaster Vogue Williams and former Made in Chelsea star Spencer Matthews have built a life together since their 2018 marriage, but Williams has recently discussed the importance of maintaining a degree of separation within their relationship. Their journey, from initial skepticism to a thriving family, highlights a modern approach to marriage that balances shared life with individual pursuits.
From Skepticism to Marriage
Vogue Williams and Spencer Matthews first met in 2017 while filming the Channel 4 show The Jump. Initially, Williams admitted she “didn’t fancy” Matthews and didn’t believe a relationship would operate. She described him as someone she felt she would need to “fix,” a pattern she was actively trying to avoid, having worked through this tendency with a therapist. Cosmopolitan reports that friends encouraged her, believing Matthews would fit well within her social circle.
Despite her initial reservations, their connection blossomed. Spencer Matthews proposed in February 2018 during a performance of The Lion King in London, and the couple married in June of that year at the Matthews family estate in Glen Affric, Scotland. The Mirror notes they have been married for seven years as of late 2025.
Balancing Togetherness and Independence
In a recent appearance at Meta’s HQ in Dublin, Williams spoke about her preference for a “separate life” alongside her husband. This sentiment arose during a discussion about her friendship with Joanne McNally, co-host of the podcast My Therapist Ghosted Me. Williams explained that while she values her time with Matthews, she too needs space for her own friendships and activities. She recounted an instance where Matthews’ desire for lunch interrupted a walk with McNally, leading to a minor disagreement.
Williams emphasized the importance of each partner having their own friends and interests. She previously stated she would have “swiped past” Spencer on a dating app, acknowledging that their connection was based on personality rather than initial physical attraction. Dublin Live reports this observation came during an episode of her podcast, Vogue and Amber, where she discussed the limitations of judging potential partners solely on appearance.
Family Life and Personal Growth
Vogue Williams and Spencer Matthews share three children: Theodore, Gigi, and Otto. The Mirror confirms this. Matthews has spoken openly about his past struggles with alcohol and how meeting Williams and starting a family motivated him to become sober. Cosmopolitan details his acknowledgement that he was a “bad alcoholic” before his relationship with Williams, often drinking to excess and early in the day.
Williams has also been candid about the challenges and adjustments within their marriage, including navigating public scrutiny and rumors of trouble. However, she consistently maintains that their relationship is strong and built on mutual respect and understanding.