Photo courtesy of Olandria Carthen.
Welcome to Seek Help, a new column where we enlist Interview’s wisest and weirdest friends to give us answers to life’s most profound questions. For our third installment, we tapped Olandria Carthen, the straight-talking stunner from Love Island USA’s seventh season. Before Monday’s hotly anticipated reunion, she dropped by to give her unfiltered thoughts on situationships, self-sabotage, and the importance of knowing your angles.
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What do I do if I’m in a situationship but I really want him to make it official?
Let him no. Closed mouths don’t get fed. If his reaction is what you want it to be, continue to build on what you have. If it’s the opposite of what you want it to be, and I think we all know where I’m going with this one, leave, leave, leave and save your energy.
I want to be kinder to myself, but I literally have no idea where to start.
Start small. Look in the mirror and say one thing you like about yourself.It can be anything-your eyes, your hair, your hustle. Than, build from there.It’s a process, not a destination. Also, unfollow anyone who makes you feel less than. Protect your peace at all costs.
I keep sabotaging myself right before things get good.Why do I do this?
Girl, we’ve all been there. It’s usually fear disguised as something else. You’re probably scared of getting hurt,or of not being good enough,or of actually succeeding and having to maintain that success. Identify what the fear is, and then challenge it. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” and then, “Can I handle that?” Usually, the answer is yes.
What’s the key to looking good in photos?
Angles, honey, angles! Know your best side, and work it. Chin down, eyes up, and a little bit of a smirk never hurts. Also, good lighting is your friend. and don’t be afraid to take a million photos until you get one you like. That’s what I do.
I’m struggling to set boundaries with my family. How do I do it without causing a huge fight?
This is tough, but necessary. Start by being clear and direct about what you need. Use “I” statements, like “I need some space,” instead of “You always…” Then, be prepared to repeat yourself. And don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your own well-being. Family is significant,but so are you.