At the funeral of Rabbi Eli Schlanger,one of the 15 victims of Sunday’s terrorist attack in Bondi,Rabbi Ritchie Moss stood before the assembled crowd and urged the community to honour Schlanger by “being so much more Jewish,more proud,more loving”.

On the same day, a Jewish bakery in inner-city Sydney closed its doors, apparently for good, saying that in the wake of the Bondi attack “one thing has become clear – it is indeed no longer possible to make outwardly, publicly, proudly Jewish places and events safe in australia”.

The two events sum up a tension facing Australia’s Jewish community as it reels from the senseless attack on a Hanukah celebration at Bondi beach: how to protect the safety of its community after being the targets of Australia’s deadliest terrorist attack, while also remaining proudly, visibly Jewish.

People leave notes of support at Avner’s bakery after the owner decided to close the store after the Bondi shooting. Photograph: Blake Sharp-Wiggins/The Guardian

Rabbi Alon Meltzer, the associate rabbi at Bondi Mizrachi synagogue, was at Schlanger’s funeral. As he left, he called his 13-year-old daughter Daliah.

“Among the tears of describing how that funeral was, I said to her, ‘Our most crucial thing is to never give up our yiddish culture, to never give up our Judaism and to ensure that we stay proud forever and ever and ever. Or else this will all be for vain.’

“Her response back was an unequivocal ‘yes’.”

Down at the vigils at Bondi beach late at night, he has been encouraged to see Jewish people expressing their faith publicly.

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“And … you can’t go to the city because they are demonstrating every week,” she says of the pro-Palestinian marches that have taken place each Sunday in Melbourne.

“The only thing we want from the government is not to be hated. The hate should be stopped. I don’t want somebody who doesn’t know me from a bar of soap to hate me because I’m born Jewish.”

Daliah, Meltzer’s 13-year-old daughter, says receiving antisemitic comments from strangers in the street is common, notably when she and her friends are “walking on Shabbat, dressed up nicely”, or if she is seen wearing her school uniform in public (she attends a Jewish school).

“At the start of October 7th, we all got very scared and a lot of us didn’t feel safe going out in our school uniform … so a lot of us woudl get changed and then we realised it’s not worth it, they can tell if we’re Jewish anyway, so we may as well not hide it.”

sunday’s attack has had an acute impact on her.

“I was actually at a barmitzvah, where I was paid to do hair, when I found out,” she said.”I was freaking out and I couldn’t … I felt like I couldn’t breathe.”

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“Jewish people feel ally-less,” said Shoshana, a 30-year-old Sydney Jewish woman who did not wish to give her surname.

Shoshana represents the dilemma faced by so many Australian Jews.

She is a prominent Jewish woman, who writes about Judaism wiht a large following online. However, she does not feel safe to share her full name or any details that could identify her online, where she receives “constant, unchallenged” antisemitic trolling.

She says that navigating how to safely express one’s “public Judaism” is not a new dilemma.

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“The reality of hiding one’s Jewish identity in Australia has been around for much longer than two years. It’s a running joke that the only thing more recognisable than a Jew in a kippah is a Jew in a baseball cap that’s hiding his kippah,” she says.

“My whole adult life, I’ve had to think about how and when I talk about or express my Jewish identity. Not always out of fear of physical danger, but also in social interactions with new co-workers, talking about certain things too loudly in public.”“`html

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