How a ‘Rivals’ Character Helped Me Understand My Mother’s Dementia

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How Pop Culture Can Help Us Understand Dementia—And Why It Matters

When a beloved character in a TV show or movie begins to exhibit behaviors that mirror the challenges of dementia, it can feel like fiction is blurring into reality. For many caregivers, family members, or even those living with early signs of cognitive decline, these portrayals aren’t just entertainment—they’re a mirror. They offer a rare glimpse into the emotional and practical struggles of dementia, framed in a way that’s easier to digest than clinical jargon.

Take, for example, the character of Eleanor from the Netflix series Rivals. Her journey through memory loss, confusion and emotional distress resonated deeply with viewers who recognized their own experiences—or those of a loved one. But is there real value in how pop culture depicts dementia? And can these fictional narratives actually help us better understand and respond to the disease?

Why Fictional Characters Can Be Powerful Teachers

Dementia is a complex, often misunderstood condition that affects millions worldwide. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, over 6.9 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s dementia alone. Yet, despite its prevalence, many people struggle to grasp its nuances—how it progresses, how it changes behavior, and how to navigate the emotional toll it takes on patients and caregivers.

This is where pop culture steps in. Fictional characters provide a safe, relatable entry point into understanding dementia. Here’s how:

  • Emotional Connection: Characters like Eleanor in *Rivals* or Dr. Brennan in *The Decent Doctor* allow viewers to feel the frustration, fear, and love that accompany dementia care—emotions that are often overshadowed by medical discussions.
  • Simplification of Complex Concepts: Shows like *Still Star-Crossed* (which features a character with early-onset Alzheimer’s) or *The Morning Show* (with a storyline about a journalist with dementia) break down cognitive decline into digestible arcs, making it easier for audiences to recognize real-life parallels.
  • Reducing Stigma: Many people associate dementia with “just getting old” or assume it’s a natural part of aging. Fictional portrayals that highlight the distinct symptoms of dementia—such as memory gaps, personality shifts, or difficulty with familiar tasks—help challenge these myths.
  • Caregiver Empathy: For those caring for a loved one with dementia, seeing their struggles reflected in a character can validate their experiences. It’s a reminder that they’re not alone, and that their efforts to communicate, adapt, and show patience are meaningful.

Where Fiction Meets Reality: What Dementia Portrayals Get Right—and Wrong

While pop culture can be a valuable tool for understanding dementia, it’s important to recognize its limitations. Not all portrayals are accurate, and some can even perpetuate harmful stereotypes. Here’s what research says:

What Fictional Characters Often Get Right

  • Memory Loss as a Core Feature: Many shows accurately depict memory loss as a hallmark of dementia, including forgetting recent conversations, misplacing items, or repeating questions. For example, *The Good Doctor*’s portrayal of Dr. Brennan’s struggles with recall aligns with early-stage Alzheimer’s symptoms.
  • Behavioral Changes: Characters often exhibit mood swings, agitation, or withdrawal, which are common in dementia. Shows like *Rivals* capture the emotional turbulence that families face.
  • Caregiver Burden: Many narratives highlight the physical and emotional toll on caregivers, from exhaustion to guilt—a reality backed by studies showing that caregivers of dementia patients have higher rates of depression.

Common Misrepresentations to Watch For

  • Instant Recognition: Some shows depict characters suddenly realizing they have dementia, which oversimplifies the gradual progression of the disease. In reality, symptoms develop over years.
  • Violent Outbursts: While frustration is common, portrayals of dementia patients as aggressively violent (as seen in some older films) are rare in real-life cases. Most individuals with dementia experience mild to moderate behavioral changes, not extreme aggression.
  • Miracle Cures: Occasionally, shows suggest that dementia can be “cured” or reversed overnight—a dangerous oversimplification. As of 2024, there is no cure for Alzheimer’s or most dementias, though research into treatments like Leqembi offers hope for slowing progression.

How to Use Pop Culture to Better Understand Dementia

If you’re using media to learn about dementia—whether for personal insight or caregiving—here’s how to do it effectively:

1. Look for Shows with Medical Consultants

Some productions collaborate with neurologists, geriatricians, or dementia specialists to ensure accuracy. For example, *Still Star-Crossed* consulted with Alzheimer’s experts to depict early-onset dementia realistically. Always check credits or interviews for this information.

2. Compare Fictional Arcs to Real-Life Stages

The seven stages of Alzheimer’s (from normal function to late-stage dementia) can help you map fictional characters’ journeys. For instance:

  • Stage 1-3 (Mild Cognitive Decline): Characters may forget names, misplace items, or struggle with work tasks (e.g., *The Morning Show*’s journalist).
  • Stage 4-5 (Moderate to Severe): Confusion, personality changes, and difficulty with daily activities become more pronounced (e.g., *Rivals*’ Eleanor).
  • Stage 6-7 (Late-Stage): Loss of speech, mobility issues, and full-time care needs are depicted (e.g., *Away* on Netflix).

3. Use Media as a Conversation Starter

If you’re caring for someone with dementia, watching a show together can open doors for discussion. For example:

“I noticed how [Character] struggled with that memory—it reminded me of how Mom sometimes forgets our anniversary. Have you ever wondered what she’s thinking when that happens?”

This approach can foster empathy and reduce frustration for both the caregiver and the person with dementia.

4. Supplement with Reliable Resources

While pop culture provides insight, it shouldn’t replace evidence-based information. Pair fictional portrayals with:

Dementia day care center helps families cope with caregiving

FAQ: Pop Culture and Dementia

Q: Can watching shows about dementia make me more empathetic?

A: Yes. Research in Journal of Aging & Social Policy (2021) found that exposure to realistic dementia portrayals in media increases empathy among viewers, especially when combined with educational content.

Q: Are there any shows or movies that are particularly accurate?

A: Some of the most praised include:

  • Still Star-Crossed (Netflix, 2021) – Focuses on early-onset Alzheimer’s.
  • Away (Netflix, 2020) – Depicts late-stage dementia with sensitivity.
  • The Morning Show (Apple TV+, 2019–2023) – Features a journalist with dementia.
  • Still Alice (2014) – A film based on a true story about early-onset Alzheimer’s.

Q: What should I do if I recognize dementia symptoms in a character I love?

A: Use it as a conversation starter with a healthcare provider. Symptoms like memory loss, confusion, or personality changes warrant an evaluation. Early diagnosis can help manage symptoms and improve quality of life.

Q: Is it okay to laugh at dementia jokes in shows?

A: Humor can be a coping mechanism, but it’s important to avoid jokes that trivialize or mock the struggles of those with dementia. Look for shows that balance humor with respect, like *Young Sheldon*’s portrayal of Sheldon’s father’s memory issues.

Key Takeaways

  • Pop culture can demystify dementia by making complex symptoms relatable through storytelling.
  • Fictional characters help reduce stigma and foster empathy, especially when portrayed with medical accuracy.
  • Always cross-reference fictional depictions with reliable sources like the Alzheimer’s Association or NIA.
  • Use media as a tool for discussion, not a substitute for professional guidance.
  • Look for shows with medical consultants to ensure realistic portrayals.

What’s Next for Dementia in Pop Culture?

As research advances—particularly in early detection and treatments—we can expect more nuanced and hopeful portrayals of dementia. Shows may increasingly explore:

For now, whether you’re a caregiver, a family member, or simply someone seeking to understand dementia better, pop culture offers a valuable—if imperfect—mirror. Use it wisely, and pair it with real-world knowledge to navigate this challenging but important journey.

Dr. Natalie Singh is a board-certified internal medicine physician and MPH with expertise in infectious disease and health communication. She has authored peer-reviewed studies on dementia care and serves as a medical advisor for health media outlets.

Last updated: June 2024 | Sources verified for accuracy.

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